10-year-old James is like many of the children who attend our learning programmes. He has an unhealthy attachment to his phone with little interest in academics. When asked to focus on his schoolwork, he would often throw tantrums. Rather than play board games with Beyond volunteers, he’d stick to games on his phone.
Still, James would voluntarily show up at our sessions, where he was always welcomed. Our approach isn’t about forcing change but about creating a space for it. We set a clear boundary — schoolwork first, then fun and games.
But getting through to James wasn’t easy. We were patiently persistent, while gently motivating him and encouraging his natural curiosity. Taking the lead was Larry*, one of our secondary school volunteers. Picking up on James’s interest in Roblox, Larry found common ground. They spent time after the work segment talking about Roblox, and over time, built a bond. Then, Larry introduced James to chess, with a playful incentive: if James beat him, he’d win Robux—the currency used in Roblox.
It worked.
Suddenly, James was eager to play chess, challenging Larry at every session. Even losing time after time didn’t discourage James. He continued playing and improving until he finally beat Larry fair and square. To say James was elated would be an understatement.
From chess, their games expanded to others that involved basic math and strategy. Gradually, James began to participate without the lure of Robux. He started playing with others, sharing laughs over simple board games and focusing on tasks that didn’t involve his phone.
This shift was already a victory. James was engaging with others, building social connections, and developing skills.
James, who was previously a reluctant student, could now work on an exam paper for an hour and a half with focus and determination. No coaxing. No promised rewards. Just fuelled by self- discipline and the motivation to do his best.
James’s story is still unfolding, but his journey thus far is testament to what happens when we approach children with patience, respect, and understanding. It’s not about forcing change upon them but creating the space for them to grow at their own pace.
If the work we do resonates with you, consider joining us as a volunteer. Together, we can help more kids like James find their way in life. As our volunteer Larry will attest – it is a very rewarding experience.
“Meeting people where they’re at and treating them like human beings and not trying to change them, actually opens up the possibility of transformation for them.” – Dr. Gabor Maté